Dating and relationships for introverts
“As an introvert, I take my time when I’m getting to know someone romantically and I don’t really try to get too physical until I know them better,” he said.
“I compare myself to my extroverted friend: He enjoys hitting on a lot of women at bars and clubs and taking things to the next level fairly quickly.
It’s no surprise then that the thought of actually talking to someone who might be a future partner can send an introvert into a tailspin. You may scare away a few flakes, and instead attract people who will really appreciate you. Often introverts are also people-pleasers, and they will do what they think is asked of them even if they suffer.“Instead of flitting from topic to topic or telling one long-winded story after the next, introverts slow down, look you in the eye and truly listen.Introverts draw you in by posing interesting questions and sharing their own unique perspectives.”Introverts would rather have a few promising relationship leads than dozens of open chats with people they’re only vaguely interested in, said Steven Zawila, a writer and the editor of the blog Charming Introvert.They value a back-and-forth conversation and ask follow-up questions.(Bonus points for that: A recent Harvard Business School study found that people who asked a lot of questions, particularly follow-up questions, were considered more likable by others.)Michaela Chung, the author of “As someone who has gone on a lot of dates with both introverts and extroverts, I can honestly say that the most exceptional dates were with fellow introverts,” Chung said.